How does one cope with the loss of a loved one?
My heart aches for the loss of my young friend, Benjamin Tee Chee Keong, 15. He had just lost the fight for his life at a hospital in Melaka after they pulled him out from the swimming pool two days ago. Our church youths were having a camp at a resort there.
Benjamin was a good-looking boy, quiet, smart and a voracious bookworm with an awesome vocabulary. He loved to read. His mother, Jenny asked me to pre-order the latest Harry Potter book for him. When he got it, he devoured it in a day. He was always looking at my collection of books when he came to my house for our home zone meeting.
Recently he asked me if I had any suitable book to lend him. “Do you like chic lit?” I asked as my daughter had lots of those. “Er… no,.Obviously.” So I lent him We need to talk about Kevin. He said he liked the book.
Last Saturday night when we had our home zone meeting, Western food was on the menu. Jenny had cooked mushroom soup. I was waiting for Ben to scoop his second helping, and his mother admonished him to leave some for me. I wished I had let him take the soup to his heart’s content.
Ben is no more. I’ll miss him. I won’t see him walking around the sports complex where we play badminton every Sunday. He won’t be there to ask for money from his mother to buy soft drinks from the vending machine. He won’t be at our home zone meeting anymore. I won’t see him in church, leading songs in that big voice of his. He won’t need a room in the new house they’re about to move in. He won’t ever be borrowing books from me again or asking me “When is your next book coming out?” He won’t be flashing that sweet, shy smile of his anymore. Ever.
Goodbye, Ben. You’re safe in the arms of God. We’ll be there for your family, to help them weather this bereavement.
“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.” Psalms 23:4
“For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38,39